Helllloooo FRIENDS!!!!!
I feel like I was MIA for the month of March. It has been a fun and crazy season of travel and potty training over here. In my last post I told you we potty trained RJ with the three day method, well we WERE WRONG!!!!! I mean ya, RJ is definitely going on the potty more, but not all the time and there have been way more accidents than I would have loved to see. But so thankful for GRACE and great friends. I had a friend send me the sweetest text:
“ I just saw your post about potty training and take this for what it is but You can change your mind. I wish someone would have told me that with my son. I wish i would have believed them if they did. But I don’t think I would have listened. When they are truly ready, it’s not “training”. It just clicks and they do it. Having accidents on occasion. Not multiple times a day. When they aren’t ready, it’s the biggest pain and mess and heartache.
It’s ok to stop. Even though you threw out the diapers. It’s ok to buy more. It’s ok to tell her you don’t think she’s ready and can try again in a few months. It’s ok whatever you decide. You are not a potty training failure. Neither is she.
Decide if it’s worth it right now. My pride wouldn’t let me see that when John wasn’t ready. Even though I thought he was. I’m praying you can see clearly the route you should take. Love you friend.”
Gosh what a blessing community is in life. I am so thankful for friends who continue to encourage me and cheer me on from the sidelines. So all that to say we are giving ourselves grace in this season (well in every season really) and letting RJ where pull-ups when we are out or maybe even at home sometimes. I keep telling myself, she won’t be in them for 10 years!
I just wanted to pop in to remind you all to give yourselves GRACE! To not beat yourself up if something you are working on with your child or with your self that just isn’t going the way you expected. IT IS NOT FAILING!  I hate that we feel like we “have” to do it a certain way, but we don’t! Find the compromise that will take the pressure off and go with it.
YOU DO YOU!Â
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4 responses to “Grace Upon Grace”
So true! It’s so hard to not feel like a failure, esp when dealing with kid/mom stuff. I think you are doing great!
Love your friend’s note and I 100% agree with it! Potty training can feel like some badge of honor for parents, with “younger=bigger medal” mentality, but waiting till the child is ready is (in my opinion) the easiest route for everyone. When they’re ready it’s ridiculously easy and you probably won’t even have to deal with any accidents. Always good to do a reality check and think about what’s best for the child vs. how many more diapers you have to deal with.
More importantly, always good to give yourself and your kids grace as you seek what’s best for you both, regardless of how it looks to others!
Yessss! To what your friend said. I felt mommy pressure to try the three day method when my daughter turned two and after two days we were both miserable. I felt shame that I didn’t accomplish what I set out to do and had told friends I was doing. We waited a few months and my daughter really just decided she liked going on the toilet and it was easy peasy. Great words of advice from your friend!
You have awesome friends!